In Praise of Naïveté

I just got home from the wedding of a young couple who have dated for a few years, and are delightful people. They met when he was fresh out of college and she was in high school (!) and spent a few years making eyes at each other before it was okay for them to start officially dating. Theirs is a beaujolais relationship – young, fresh, and completely un-ironic.

I was struck by the innocence and obviousness of their love for each other – it is unleavened by the cynicism which has infected the modern age, and in that is like a throwback to a better time. My hope for them is that they maintain this un-ironic view of each other, and serve as a reminder to all the rest of us that comparison to the bitter is not necessary for something to be sweet.

I’ll certainly pay for dancing and clapping, but it was worth it; I got to rejoice at the union of two dear friends, and that’s worth a lot.


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I'm a network engineer, musician, and Orthodox Jew who opines on things which cross my path.

2 Responses to In Praise of Naïveté

  1. Sarah says:

    I know first hand that sometimes it’s worth it to overdo it. I did so too at the wedding, but was fortunate to just sleep (some of) it off for 3.5 hours!

    As to the content of your post, I was reflecting last night that as cynical as people seem about marriage, and as high as the divorce rate is, people still keep aiming for marriage, and that’s a good thing.

  2. Shoshana says:

    I was commenting the other day that as many people that were there, it still felt like a small, intimate affair. While there was plenty of simcha, it did not have that over-the-top feeling that some Jewish weddings have. The simcha seemed to come from inside of us, a genuine joy for the couple, instead of loads of shtick items. (not knocking shtick items).

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